It’s crazy to think that the feelings of love and attachment are triggered by chemical signals in your body.
Oxytocin and vasopressin are chemicals that has been known to have been released during two specific times… During an orgasm for both males and females and when a woman is giving birth…
Does this explain that feeling of attachment mothers instantly feel towards their offspring after giving birth? Is this why sexless marriages often involves partners who feel distance from each other? Is this why “friends with benefits” often develop feelings toward each other unintentionally?
Speculate all you want. I personally believe that this is not a coincidence. It has already been proven that many psychological disorders are linked to chemical signaling in the brain among other factors of course. i.e. psychopaths do not feel any sort of emotions towards other people because they lack certain chemical signalling in their body.
New studies are now linking oxytocin release to physical contact (i.e. hugging/holding hands/kissing). Which could very well explain why we feel a connection with someone else after making out with them or holding hands.
The thing that scares me the most is that we think our conscious mind is deciding independently to be attached to someone when in reality it is the arrival of oxytocin and vasopressin in the brain influencing our decisions. It is crazy to think that who and what we think we are as in a spiritual sense could be heavily influenced by external factors. For instance, I might not be able to control my emotions towards someone who I am having sex with, even if we establish we are “just friends.” Now do I really like this person, or is it the oxytocin and vasopressin telling my conscience that I am developing feelings for this person?
So really, am I in control of my bus’s passengers? Or can constant hugs keep them a rider for longer than I want?
To read more, here is an interesting link: http://www.oxytocin.org/oxytoc/love-science.html
And that is my “HOLY CRAP THAT IS COOL” for today.